Second Wedding

We got married again! Kayla and I recently went to San Francisco and Napa and we got married while we were there! In light of the marriage bans being lifted across the country, we thought it would be a good idea to tie the knot legally. By the time Texas is legally recognizing all marriages, we will already be set! In the meantime, we have federal benefits and will be able to file our taxes jointly. This is a huge deal for us as a couple. Fingers are crossed that the bans will be lifted in our state before we decide to expand our family. If that happens it would mean that the mother who doesn't carry the child will be listed on the birth certificate. If our marriage is not locally recognized by the time that happens, we will have to go through an adoption process for second parent adoption. 

Our vacation was lovely. We spent one day in San Francisco. We stayed in The Red Victorian in Haight Ashbury, where we stayed during our first vacation together six years ago. We revisited all of our favorite thrift shops and ate delicious food. 10 minutes before our cab was to pick us up, we jetted into a vintage shop next to the Red Vic and bought a new hat for me to wear for the ceremony. Kayla found a tie and a pocket square and in moments our outfits had transformed into something magical. Then we went to City Hall and got married. It was all very orderly and official seeming. We waited in lines to get our certificate squared away and then to meet our officiant. We were the first couple to get married at 3pm, our appointment time. In the meantime we chatted with our photographer and his girlfriend and had a photo shoot in between appointments. It was cool because we have been through the ceremony business before. I swore I wouldn't cry. Kayla teared up when the officiant said that we would comfort one another in times of hardship. When I get overly emotional I cry or laugh nervously, so when she cried I laughed. Then we both laughed. The photographer captured the moment where we were both laughing through tears. When Kayla tried to slip my ring (back on) my finger it was difficult because my hands were swollen. We had just taken our rings off and swiftly dropped them in Kayla's pocket before we held hands for the ceremony. We laughed again. We did our thing, got shooed away for the next 3pm couple, and posed for more photos (making out and marathoning in heels from side to side and top to bottom of City Hall). It was perfect. 

After a Whole Foods snack run we drove to Napa and spent the next few days lolling around the small town, eating food and tasting wine. We did manage to drive to one winery for a tour, and we saw Ani Difranco at the adorable Uptown Theater for Kayla's 31 birthday present. Napa, in a word, was delicious. Everything I ate melted in my mouth. If you haven't noticed already our vacations are largely centered around food. We had coffee in bed, snacks on the deck, sunned in the hammock and soaked in the tub every day. 

 

Now that we are back home I thought I would update the blog with some happy news and share some of the teaser photos that we have gotten back from our (second) wedding.